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The RE's Muse

After 4 years of infertility, 2 surgeries, 1 miscarriage, and 19 months of high risk pregnancies, hubby and I now have two little women in our lives--one a toddler, the other not far behind. Buckle your seatbelts, it's gonna be a wild ride.

Monday, October 30, 2006

Butterball season

(Playing a little 'catch up' so this post is a bit long-winded.)

Thanksgiving is coming, Thanksgiving is coming. Oh how I lurve me some turkey day! This year we'll be hosting the family at our house for the big eating festivities. I enjoy a house full of crazy, loud, generally whacko family members...and then I realize that I enjoy the subsequent empty house following their departure even more.

Speaking of butterball, guess who has gained an impressive 32 lbs. so far with this pregnancy? Yes, that would be moi and my just-got-its-own-zip code belly. Bear in mind that I gained 41 lbs during my entire pregnancy with J and you can easily do the math to realize that, with 13 to 16 weeks still to go, I'm going to blow my old 'record' out of the water. The strange thing is that I seem to have gained it all in my stomach. Honestly, for just over 6 months along, I am huge in the belly.

The good news despite all of the weight gained is the fact that I passed both my one- and three-hour glucose tolerance tests. So far, no GD for me--yea! Of course, they did do the three-hour test earlier than normal just to see where I stand currently and I do have to go back and do another three-hour test in two weeks time. Hopefully, it comes back normal again.

In other baby news, A and I can not come to an agreement on a name for BG 2.0. I have my heart set on one name and one name only, while he has his heart set on another name (one that was our #2 contender when I was expecting J). His choice is one of our nation's most popular names and has been on the top ten list for the past 5 years or so which is why I don't want it. I have no problem with the name itself, it's just that I don't want my daughter to be one of 10 with the same name in her school classes one day. I don't think that'll be the case with J and in keeping with her not-too-popular name, I figured the second girl should have a name fairly in keeping with her big sister's. Not anything that rhymes or anything like that, just something with a similar 'feel.' So we go round and round, and try to come up with a third name that we can both agree on and just go with it but so far, no go. It's a little frustrating to say the least. Of course, I do like to raise the point that since this baby gets pushed out of my girly bits, I should get a double vote in what her name gets to be. A's not buying that argument though. Damn it. Any name suggestions you have would gratefully be considered.

2.0 passed the 'magical' mark of viability last week and I am heading boldly towards the third trimester in a few weeks. I still can't believe it. She kicks and rolls and twirls around with wild abandon and I love it. The big girl, J, is blossoming as well. She seems to add new words to her vocabulary every day and it's amazing to see the connections she makes between objects and words. She is a true joy and a baby no more. She is firmly in the realm of toddlerhood now, and I love her to bits.

I forgot to mention that I had jury duty a few weeks back (and ultimately got selected for a trial). One of the other potential jurors (when we were still being questioned to be on the jury), an older grandmotherly-type, struck up a conversation with me in the bathroom. It started out innocently enough--how far along are you? is this your first? etc. When I mentioned that I had a then-15 month-old daughter at home, I got the critical stink eye and a "wow, they'll be really close in age." My reply? "Only 20 months and since I'm getting up there in years, we decided to knock them both out of the park in short order" in a lighthearted manner. Thankfully, that shut the nosy woman up. If only she knew that it wasn't so easy as 'knocking them both out of the park in short order' (but it was the best reply I could come up with off the cuff).

The fact is, at 37, I certainly didn't expect trying for another child to be such short work. In fact, I thought to myself that we were so incredibly lucky the first (actually, second) time, there was no way it would happen again. Especially when it took us four years to get to J...so yes, I realize every. single. day just how amazing this pregnancy is. Just the fact that we managed to get pregnant again is huge. That she is healthy and thriving is more than we could hope and dream for. The icing on the cake. The fact that they'll be 20 months apart to me simply means that they'll hopefully be playmates and friends for a long time to come. Oh, and that I'll be in diaper mode for a good long time.

I look forward to what the coming months hold and intend to savor every moment that I can. 2.0 will complete our family, making A the lone male in a house full of estrogen.

I look forward to what the unknown future holds. To dreams, and realities, family dinners, family vacations, heartbreaks, skinned knees, and so very much more. Time flies by at an amazing clip; I intend to treasure it--and to stop and smell the roses--as often as I can. These days, stopping to smell the roses means a romp in the yard with J, watching her face light up on the swing set or her calls of joy as she chases after the dogs. These are the true moments of joy, where I know just how incredibly lucky I am. I'll never ever forget that.


At 4:54 PM, Blogger Chebbles' Mama said...

Oh how wonderful, all of it! You house will be full, YOU are full, J is full of words, and the biggest dilemma you face is a name... hooray!!! I'm so excited for you, living in the land of viability. Is it weird that I'm looking forward to "meeting" 2.0!?

Anyway, as for names, I wanted to share my own thoughts -- my husband and I initially settled on a great name, which we found out was the #1 most popular girl name in the US: Emily. We love that name. But then we got rattled by its popularity and went with a variation. And sometimes I wish I'd just sucked it up and gone with Emily. It's a great name. We know NO OTHER Emily's. And Babycakes would have made a smashing Emily -- so much personality, she would have been THE Emily, had there been a contest.

Anyway, not to side with your husband, but those are my thoughts! And since my husband wasn't getting his boy, I ultimately went with his suggestion, you know, to throw him a bone.

And thanks, by the way, for the tip on Roseola -- sounds exactly like what we were dealing with!

At 9:07 AM, Blogger Carol said...

Dee - You make me want to have another baby now! If that were to happen, I do have both first & middle names for a boy AND a girl (I even have twin girl names picked out)-lol. I recently ran them by my DH and he likes them both. I can't share the names, but I will tell you that when I meet other parents and go to playgroups etc., I meet a LOT of Ava's, Olivia's, Grace's, Sarah's, Madison's, Emmas & Emily's! My brother named his daughter Emily (he let his stepdaughter pick it because it was her best friend's name). My nephew had a baby over the weekend and named it Emma Rose (they got it out of an Irish baby name book that I gave them). And a TV news anchor named her daughter Emma (I really don't understand the popularity with that name). I like Amanda a lot better than Emily!

I think when a husband & wife each have a baby name that they want to use, that the wife's name should be the baby's first name; and the husband's choice should be the baby's middle name. Good luck, and I can't wait to hear what BG2.0 will be named!

At 2:52 PM, Anonymous Jen-Again said...

As a Jennifer born in the time of #1 name for 14 years, I vote go with something different!

I do get comments from my older patients that it is a beautiful name, but it doens't outweigh what I go through on a DAILY basis in name confusion. Add in my very common last name, and I have had many a phone conversation that starts:

"hey- how are you?"
"So, I was talking to so and so and then i thought of you....blah, blah,blah"

until I cut them off and explain that they have the wrong Jennifer.

Going to school:

Jen W., Jen P. Jen A., Jen D., Jen T., Jen S.- all friends- very confusing.

At 5:17 PM, Blogger Toffee said...

Well, my dh wanted to name our child either 1)Prudence, 2)Constance, or 3) Violet (he gave a neg on that one after he found out Ben Affleck named his kid that). She was not given those names but the one I wrote down (we had discussed this one when I gave my preference) while I was filling out her birth certificate application in the hospital room after I delivered and everyone had left.

I get from this entry that you are really grateful for your blessings. I am happy for you too.

At 4:15 PM, Anonymous Menita said...

Well you are just one big bundle of happy, aren't you?
This is so great, and so far a long already! Time has flown!
And I am with you 100% on the naming thing - we should TOTALLY get naming rights, dammit!


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