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The RE's Muse

After 4 years of infertility, 2 surgeries, 1 miscarriage, and 19 months of high risk pregnancies, hubby and I now have two little women in our lives--one a toddler, the other not far behind. Buckle your seatbelts, it's gonna be a wild ride.

Monday, July 18, 2005

Happy one month baby girl

Juliana is one month old today...can you believe it?

One month of sleepless nights and days, one month of latching (or not), one month of tearless cries, one month of snuggles, one month of sleeping on my or her daddy's chest, one month of sleeping in the swing/car seat/co-sleeper/bouncy seat/wherever, one month of screams/coos/sighs/hiccups/burps/pukes....

One joyous sweet month...that has gone by too fast. How could one month go by so quickly?

But oh, how I love this child more today than I did just one month ago :-)


At 10:03 PM, Anonymous amanda said...

Wow, time flies. I'm so glad things are going well.

At 11:04 PM, Blogger Moxie said...

Congratulations! (And thanks for the shout-out down below.)

I just wanted to let you know that I don't think anyone really bonds very much until after 6 weeks of nursing. The first 6 weeks just suck (ha!--I am sooooo funny). Even with subsequent children when you know what's going on and how hard it really is. You spend so much energy loving the child before it arrives, and then reality is just different and all you feel like is that you're sinking so much energy and time and boob pain into someone who doesn't even really know the difference. And you're not you anymore and you're scared you'll never get yourself back. Try to bear in mind that a year from now you'll wish you could go back in time and give yourself a hug during this time because it's so surreal and stressful, and things will have gotten so much better that you'll just feel bad for how you felt now.

If you hang in for 2-4 more weeks the nursing will turn the corner. Even if you don't actually like it, it won't be as annoying and stressful as it is now. (And it doesn't sound like you want to nurse in public, but I don't think most of us just do it--instead we work up to it by practiciing in places where it doesn't really matter, like at friends' houses or LLL meetings or new mom support groups, etc.)

Oh, and what Menita says about doing whatever it takes to get you all some sleep is dead on. I call the first 12-16 weeks Malcolm X time, because you need sleep By Any Means Necessary. Even if you all have to sleep curled up in the bathtub with the dogs, if you can catch a few zzzs it's all fine.

It sounds like you're doing a stellar job. She looks so happy, and that's the best report card you could get!

At 1:21 PM, Blogger ThreeBees said...

Happy One-Month Birthday little one!

My how time does fly! :)

At 2:37 PM, Anonymous Menita said...

Happy first month to the three of you!
And you think you love her now...just wait till month 2.
Hang in there, D, things will get better and better and better. Soon.
And pretty much everything that Moxie says, especially the stuff about me being right.

At 8:06 PM, Blogger Toni said...

She's absolutely beautiful....still :)

At 10:11 PM, Blogger Jen P said...

She's just so adorable! Happy 1 month to little princess and to her mommy, who is doing a great job!

She's so pink and perfect!! Oh, I've got major baby envy right now!!

Thinking of you and hoping all is well.

At 2:46 PM, Blogger Kristin said...

She is absolutely gorgeous! Congrats on her first month.

At 8:15 PM, Anonymous Jenny said...

Congratulations - what a gorgeous little girl! Hang in there - you are doing really well through one of the very very toughest times possible... so cut yourself some slack. :)

Don't know whether my experience will be helpful at all, but I have to say that for me and my daughter, bonding was a gradual experience. It wasn't the *bang* you're bonded sort of thing you read about/see on TV... for us, it was and continues to be about getting to know each other over time. (She'll be 2 next month!)

Breastfeeding, especially early on, can be really hard. Just take it one day at a time and relish the fact that your kid is thriving! Whether breast or bottlefeeding, I don't know of many folks who get a lot of "ME" time in those first couple of months of parenthood. Maybe the ones who can afford full-time nannies, or have relatives nearby?

The weepiness, the sleep deprivation, the emotions, the physical labor of feedings and changes and your body recovering, the hormones... it's pretty rough. But as everyone says, it does get better. Slowwwwwly, but it really does!

Do your best to take care of yourself, and sleep when she sleeps even though you just want to watch her. :) And if you're still feeling weepy in a month or so, make an appointment to talk to your OB.

Also, get outside if possible. Join a mother's group, make a regular date to go for a walk with a friend, anything to get yourself out of the house and ambulatory with the baby will help build your confidence. I didn't go anywhere for 6 weeks, I was so petrified! But once I got the hang of it, it felt really good to be out and about. Good luck to you!

At 10:48 PM, Blogger Amanda said...

Happy one month! I can't believe how fast things are going.

She is just beautiful!

At 3:36 PM, Blogger TulipGirl said...

What a beautiful smile!


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